I have personally never been through a divorce, but I could imagine it would be one of the absolute most difficult and tough things that one could go through. People often struggle with finding themselves and/or moving on after a divorce, but here are three tips to try helping you out in that regard.
1. Give Yourself Time
The first (and some would say most important) thing you must do is to give yourself time. You need time not only to mourn over what was lost, but also take time to find yourself and identify what you really want in life before you rush into dating or make any other brash decisions. You will also need this time to work through your feelings and deal with any negativity. Speaking to a professional is also a good idea as you are likely going through a ton of new and scary emotions and thoughts.
2. Discover Yourself
When you go through something as emotionally tolling as a divorce, it can change you as a person. Whether you want to rediscover the old you or learn and find something new about yourself, now is the perfect time to do it. Go travel, start a new job, pick up a new hobby, anything. This terrible time in your life can potentially hold a silver lining and could be the catalyst to a number of positive changes in your life. Also, learn to love yourself again and never forget tha despite what your partner did or said, you still hold value in the world.
3. Don’t Hold onto the Past
This one can be very difficult especially if you were married forever and are heartbroken by the divorce. This can lead you to constantly question everything you ever did, and leave you wondering if there was something you could do to change the outcome. The fact is, this isn’t helping anyone and is just holding you back from growth and moving on. While you don’t need to forget everything that happened, don’t dwell on it and let it ruin a perfectly good day.