No matter where you go or what you do, there always seems to be that one individual who seems to captivate everyone and be the center of attention. Now, these people may not always the most attractive people, but there is just something about them. And no, this doesn’t come from the things they are wearing or their personality either (though they can obviously be a help). More often than not, this has to do with the body language that they convey to the other people in the room.
Body language is extremely important in all facets of life whether you are in a meeting, in public or even at an event like in the above scenario. Some even say that how we stand, situate and maneuver our bodies are just as (if not more) important than the things we actually say. When we interact with others, we constantly give others (and receive) wordless signals and these can have strong messages. How we stand, how we sit, how much eye contact we use, how close we stand all can have massive meaning to others, without any words even being uttered.
In addition, sometimes our body language and the things we say can have totally different meanings. For example, we’ve all been talking to someone and what they’re saying may be extremely nice and complementing, but their body language often shows that they are feeling otherwise. Knowing and identifying body language is a great skill to have, and so is knowing how to control your own.
Body language is all about sending the right message and being inviting to others. If you want to be more captivating or more interesting even just from someone glancing ay you, there are a few things you can do to accomplish this such as:
- Having an open and relaxed posture
- Mirroring movements of others
- Eye contact
- Slight and quick touches on the arm or shoulder
- Don’t fidget
- Turn so your body is towards the person
As you can see, zero of those things have to do with what we say and are all about how we act and move nonverbally. By getting a better handle on these things (and other nonverbal signals and cues) we can become much more captivating and interesting to others in a social setting, without saying a word.