When was the last time that you felt really, really good about yourself? We’re not talking about a brief feeling of positivity or a fleeting happy feeling, we’re talking full on, out and out great. If you’re scratching your head and thumbing through dates, you might not be as alone as you would think. Failing to believe in ourselves is something that affects a great many of us and over time, feelings of self doubt can begin to grow into something much more damaging. Consistently dumbing down your true abilities can change the way that you see yourself, how others see you and consequently, the kinds of successes that you enjoy throughout your life.
Luckily, there is another way. Those effortlessly successful, confident people might seem to exist on another planet but they were probably once in the same position that you are now. It all comes down to self perspective. How you see yourself can have a huge effect on what you are able to achieve and by changing up a few of your daily habits, you can say goodbye to your self doubt.
- Remember Why You Feel Self Doubt
Self doubt rarely stems from anything tangible. Feelings of low self esteem and self worth are entirely tied up with your psychology and tapping into the inner workings of your mind is a sure fire way to get to the root of the issue. Feelings of insecurity almost always come about as a direct result of fear and imbalance and by understanding why you might be afraid, you can begin to make the changes you need to have a more positive outlook. Does the thought of success scare you? Are you afraid of what others think? Take a long, hard look at yourself; you know your mind better than anyone else.
- Look For The Light
The metaphorical light, that is. When you’re feeling unsure of yourself, you can get trapped in a spiral of negative thinking and pretty soon, you might find that there’s no way out of the inner storm you’ve created. The moments when you’re feeling at your lowest point are when you should be trying to reconnect with your emotions. Self doubt can often cloud your true judgment and give you a skewed perception of not only yourself but also, everyone else around you. When you’re feeling low, listen to your heart; it will remind you of who you are.
- Reach Out To Someone Else
When you’re feeling low, your mind is not a great place to be. With so many negative thoughts circling around your head, you can become trapped in a prison of your own making and pretty soon, it can be impossible to find a way out. If self doubt is really mounting up, it’s worth taking the issue to a third party. Friends, family members and colleagues are all there to talk to and whether it’s a personal or professional project you’re stressing about, it pays to get it all out in the open. Not sure who to talk to? Try writing it all down. A pen and notebook might not seem like much but by the time you’re done, you might be surprised at just how powerful they can be.
- Don’t Let Your Mistakes Define You
Imagine if we lived in a world in which we focused on only the positive. Instead of hanging on to our every mistake, we could look instead for the lesson to be learned out of our missteps, focusing on how they could help us in the future. Self doubt often feeds self doubt and if you’re already feeling down on your abilities, the chances are that you are going to focus even more on any mistakes you do make. Your failures are not a reflection of who you are; they are merely things that didn’t go the way that you planned. Try and focus on your mistakes as separated from who you are. Having a detached viewpoint will make it much easier to get over them.
- Value Yourself
When you’re losing control over your inner voice, you might look to others as a point of reference. The only trouble is that, by doing this, you can begin to have a warped perspective of who you really are and begin to see yourself only through the eyes of someone else. If you find yourself repeating this kind of pattern, it’s time to make a change. Remember that only you can truly give yourself value; everything else is secondary. As long as you hold yourself up high, others will start to see you in the same kind of light.